pdcraig
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Mar 2, 2013
- Messages
- 101
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 09/2012
- Country
- CA
- State
- ontario
- City
- oshawa
Hi everyone, first posting here.
My partner was diagnosed in September, confirmed in December. So far the progression is slow. Presenting in one leg, he's experiencing some foot drag.
The biggest problem right now and I know this sounds bad but he became an instant invalid after the diagnosis. The doctor told us it was in its earliest stages and presenting in one of its least aggressive forms, as good as the news is going to get. Told him to stay active, continue going to the gym, work. Try and keep things as "normal " as possible.
I can't get him off the couch. He's still not back to work, a couple of part days a week, in bed until noon, 2, last week I got home at 6 and he was just getting up. He's completely convinced himself he can't do anything and he won't try.
I've been reading through the posts and some of the stories, still riding a bicycle, are so positive. My experience not so much. I'm worried and more than a little scared.
His case is genetic, his mother passed away about 10 years ago, so he knows what he's facing, saw her go through it.
He won't go to the support group, or individual counselling, missed his last specialist appointment. Says he's not ready to face it.
Everyone has different coping skills and takes their own time. I'm just worried he's making things harder for himself than it has to be.
I get to be the mean one, making him do things for himself, pushing rather than consoling him.
I have great moral support from both our families but they're not here dealing with it daily.
Any suggestions on how to help?
I'm worried, scared and getting more and more frustrated. Trying to be patient and understanding but some days....
Thanks for letting me rant.
My partner was diagnosed in September, confirmed in December. So far the progression is slow. Presenting in one leg, he's experiencing some foot drag.
The biggest problem right now and I know this sounds bad but he became an instant invalid after the diagnosis. The doctor told us it was in its earliest stages and presenting in one of its least aggressive forms, as good as the news is going to get. Told him to stay active, continue going to the gym, work. Try and keep things as "normal " as possible.
I can't get him off the couch. He's still not back to work, a couple of part days a week, in bed until noon, 2, last week I got home at 6 and he was just getting up. He's completely convinced himself he can't do anything and he won't try.
I've been reading through the posts and some of the stories, still riding a bicycle, are so positive. My experience not so much. I'm worried and more than a little scared.
His case is genetic, his mother passed away about 10 years ago, so he knows what he's facing, saw her go through it.
He won't go to the support group, or individual counselling, missed his last specialist appointment. Says he's not ready to face it.
Everyone has different coping skills and takes their own time. I'm just worried he's making things harder for himself than it has to be.
I get to be the mean one, making him do things for himself, pushing rather than consoling him.
I have great moral support from both our families but they're not here dealing with it daily.
Any suggestions on how to help?
I'm worried, scared and getting more and more frustrated. Trying to be patient and understanding but some days....
Thanks for letting me rant.