jkungle
New member
- Joined
- Jan 17, 2013
- Messages
- 7
- Reason
- CALS
- Diagnosis
- 10/2011
- Country
- US
- State
- OH
- City
- Copley
Sorry, I just posted this in another section which may have been incorrect....
Hi I am new to the forum. My wif (Penny) was diagnosed about 10 months ago. She is 54 years old and is confined to a powered wheelchair. She has no leg mobility and arms are 80% gone. I work until 5pm. Her mother comes 3 days a week, her sister comes one day a week and my company allows me to work from home one day, and I am home on the weekends. We have hospice, 3 days a week an aid for showering and 2 days a massage therapist, and nurse once a week. My question is going to sound really shallow but I am having a hard time dealing with what it has done to our lives, and my feelings of guilt. This is the hardest thing anyone could ever go thru. It has torn our family upside down. My wife and I cry alot. We are both on depression medication. I have horrible thoughts... Right now I struggle with things like... well when I get home from work, I take my wife to the bathroom, then we eat and then typically sit and watch TV. Penny has alot of anxiety, she gets uncomfortable often and asks for me to come over and adjust her leg, clothes... And I want to help but I know inside I am bothered. It's not that I don't want to, I think I am just pissed at god (if there is one). I am still very angry about this whole thing and have a hard time believing anymore. When I get to work it is constantly on my mind. I think to myself, I want to help Penny in every way, I want to be a better caregiver and give my life to her. But then, by the time I get home it all starts over again. Please dont misunderstand I deeply love my wife, but I have these feelings and know I would be lying to myself if I didnt admit to it. Please Help
Hi I am new to the forum. My wif (Penny) was diagnosed about 10 months ago. She is 54 years old and is confined to a powered wheelchair. She has no leg mobility and arms are 80% gone. I work until 5pm. Her mother comes 3 days a week, her sister comes one day a week and my company allows me to work from home one day, and I am home on the weekends. We have hospice, 3 days a week an aid for showering and 2 days a massage therapist, and nurse once a week. My question is going to sound really shallow but I am having a hard time dealing with what it has done to our lives, and my feelings of guilt. This is the hardest thing anyone could ever go thru. It has torn our family upside down. My wife and I cry alot. We are both on depression medication. I have horrible thoughts... Right now I struggle with things like... well when I get home from work, I take my wife to the bathroom, then we eat and then typically sit and watch TV. Penny has alot of anxiety, she gets uncomfortable often and asks for me to come over and adjust her leg, clothes... And I want to help but I know inside I am bothered. It's not that I don't want to, I think I am just pissed at god (if there is one). I am still very angry about this whole thing and have a hard time believing anymore. When I get to work it is constantly on my mind. I think to myself, I want to help Penny in every way, I want to be a better caregiver and give my life to her. But then, by the time I get home it all starts over again. Please dont misunderstand I deeply love my wife, but I have these feelings and know I would be lying to myself if I didnt admit to it. Please Help