JenD1214
Member
- Joined
- Jul 18, 2012
- Messages
- 12
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 04/2009
- Country
- US
- State
- Pa
- City
- Philadelphia
It sucks because my mom has had ALS for over 5 years. When she was first diagnosed my family and friends were always there and always willing to listen to me when I was upset. As the years went by, my mom hit a stable point, where she hasn't gotten any worse. I am happy for the fact that my mom has not gotten any worse. However, my mom is not going to get any better, and she never will. In fact the doctors tell us, that even if there ever were a cure to be found, it would stop the disease, but not bring back what my mom has already lost. My mom can no longer walk or talk. What has made me sad though, is that SOME (not all) of my family and friends have begun to tell me I need to stop talking about it, they tell me I need to stop bringing up my moms illness and bringing people down and making them feel sad about it. This hurts me because I feel like they forget, that just because this disease is not progressing right now, doesn't mena it still doens't hurt my mom, and me. I can't even go shopping with my mom. I can't take my mom anywhere by myself because I can't lift her if she needs to go to the bathroom. These things stil hurt me so much inside, and I feel like no one ever wants to hear about it anymore. So I keep it inside, but I wish that people would not get so frustrated when someone is hurting. I try to be strong almost 90 % of the time and none of them give me credit for that. They only remind me of the few times I have cried when they wanted to have fun and not talk about my mom at the time. It's a shame to me, that people always say they will be there for you no matter what, but SOME of them only want to be there when its convienent for them. In the meantime, I am so grateful for the people who are really there no matter what. I am wondering from of all of you, some ideas on how I can cope with my pain, even though I'm happy my mom is still here. I don't want to be known as the person who brings everyone down anymore. Please help.