st123
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Feb 2, 2012
- Messages
- 304
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Country
- US
- State
- Michigan
- City
- Mid
A friend sent me a message on FB the other day asking if my family would like some chicken noodle soup. She said she had made a lot and would bring some by if I wanted. I almost said 'no, thanks, don't go to the trouble', knowing that she has tons going on in her life, too, and we didn't really "need" it and, besides, my house was a wreck. Instead I yes. It was so good to see her when she stopped by. She didn't stay long, but we talked and caught up.
I'm not going to feel guilty about accepting it and having her drive all the way over - she seemed truly happy to have done it. I've decided I'm not going to say 'no' to anyone that wants to help in any way. I've had many friends say, 'let me know if there's anything we can do'. I think most of them really mean it, but I can never think of anything to say, except, "thanks, I will".
Now I'm going to start giving them ideas - they can follow through or not as they wish. I think the one I'll test out next time someone is asks is, "maybe you can give us a call before you go shopping next time and see if there's something we need". I work from home and we live miles from the nearest store and I would happily pay someone to pick up fabric softener or something like that if I've run out.
It would be a huge help and might help people stay in touch - it's easier to talk about fabric softener or mustard than ALS. Does that make any sense - or is it a bad idea?
I'm not going to feel guilty about accepting it and having her drive all the way over - she seemed truly happy to have done it. I've decided I'm not going to say 'no' to anyone that wants to help in any way. I've had many friends say, 'let me know if there's anything we can do'. I think most of them really mean it, but I can never think of anything to say, except, "thanks, I will".
Now I'm going to start giving them ideas - they can follow through or not as they wish. I think the one I'll test out next time someone is asks is, "maybe you can give us a call before you go shopping next time and see if there's something we need". I work from home and we live miles from the nearest store and I would happily pay someone to pick up fabric softener or something like that if I've run out.
It would be a huge help and might help people stay in touch - it's easier to talk about fabric softener or mustard than ALS. Does that make any sense - or is it a bad idea?