we have a pivoting transfer stand that my husband can roll up to, stand and not have to move. I rotate the transfer stand and then lower him down on the comode. I really love this stand we bought on the internet for a couple hundred dollars and it makes transfers so easy for now, since he can stand this works...I am scared of when he can not stand any longer .
I wear my rubber gloves and wipe with regualr tp followed by babywipes and then a face cloth if it is really stubborn. I agree--do not flush even the flushable wipes--they will eventually clog up a system! Easiest is bath days when we put the comode in the shower, and wash up with the handhelld shower afterwards, followed by a complete shower.
We don't use bags in the bowl, did a few times but it seems easier to just pour every thing down the toilet and then rinse and flush again. I leave the bowl soaking in the tub with a few drops of toilet bowl cleaner and it looks and smells clean.