tryingtobeafriend
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- Jan 27, 2012
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- Friend was DX
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- US
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- TN
- City
- Kingsport
Hi,
My best friend's dad was diagnosed less than a year ago, and he has not been doing well. As much as I care for the whole family, I am desperate to try to be there for my friend, but I don't know how.
She's always tended to hold in her feelings until she implodes unless I pretty much make her deal with things before it gets that bad. Since I went away to college (and she went to one close to home), we've been a little disconnected. When her dad got sick, suddenly I don't think she wasn't talking to anyone about it except the every 2 months or so I came home and worked it out of her. This always ends in her crying. I thought it was good for her to get some of those feelings out, but knowing that I'm leaving my friend raw from crying instead of in denial is pretty painful, especially since I have to leave to go back to school.
I try to get her to go out and see other friends that are still in town, so she's not totally isolated when I'm gone, but she always refuses. I don't expect her to forget about it for a night to have fun, just not to lose sight of the fact that there are some good things to think about when she's sad. I'm out of ideas.
Am I doing the right thing? Am I close at all? Please help. I don't want to fail my friend, and I will do whatever it takes.
Thank you so much for your help and God bless.
My best friend's dad was diagnosed less than a year ago, and he has not been doing well. As much as I care for the whole family, I am desperate to try to be there for my friend, but I don't know how.
She's always tended to hold in her feelings until she implodes unless I pretty much make her deal with things before it gets that bad. Since I went away to college (and she went to one close to home), we've been a little disconnected. When her dad got sick, suddenly I don't think she wasn't talking to anyone about it except the every 2 months or so I came home and worked it out of her. This always ends in her crying. I thought it was good for her to get some of those feelings out, but knowing that I'm leaving my friend raw from crying instead of in denial is pretty painful, especially since I have to leave to go back to school.
I try to get her to go out and see other friends that are still in town, so she's not totally isolated when I'm gone, but she always refuses. I don't expect her to forget about it for a night to have fun, just not to lose sight of the fact that there are some good things to think about when she's sad. I'm out of ideas.
Am I doing the right thing? Am I close at all? Please help. I don't want to fail my friend, and I will do whatever it takes.
Thank you so much for your help and God bless.