Julie B
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- Jan 13, 2011
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- 11
- Diagnosis
- 01/2011
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- US
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- FL
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- Sebring
My dad isn't much of a typist and has asked me to write a post for him. My mother (age 75) was diagnosed with bulbar onset in January 2011; her voice began showing signs in April 2010. She is now unable to speak and has had a PEG since June 2011. She is still able to get around without assistance, although she is getting progressively weaker, mostly due to inactivity. We have also noticed some cognitive impairment, as described on the ALS website.
The following is from my dad...
My wife, Marion, can no longer speak and she doesn't seem to want to communicate with me much. Instead, she sits on the couch and plays games on her iPhone. She texts with our kids, but doesn't have anything to say to me, unless she needs something. She is able to get around without needing a cane or a walker; she doesn't really need assistance with anything. She prepares her own meals for the PEG, and does her own meds too. But lately, she's been telling me she feels weak. I keep thinking, once she starts to decline, it will go quickly, but my daughter tells me there's no way of knowing.
The saliva problem is already an issue, but she won't let me ask the doctor for a prescription for the suction machine, and she refuses to take the drugs that help to lessen the saliva. Instead, she sits with tissue hanging from her mouth, filling a trash can once a day. She keeps her head down most of the time, so her neck seems to be getting weak, as well. Our kids have made suggestions of things that will make her life easier, but most are rejected and nothing is accepted without an argument.
I know she wants it over, and as much as I hate to lose her, I don't want her to suffer. Telling her that she could still have a few more years would not be an encouragement to her, but I know that's a possibility. It seems she can find nothing worth living for.
I guess I want to know what to expect next. Is it going to happen a little at a time, or all of a sudden? I spoke with my doctor and he says, in the end, she will be in hospice, but how do I know when to make those arrangements?
I would appreciate any advice.
Jim
The following is from my dad...
My wife, Marion, can no longer speak and she doesn't seem to want to communicate with me much. Instead, she sits on the couch and plays games on her iPhone. She texts with our kids, but doesn't have anything to say to me, unless she needs something. She is able to get around without needing a cane or a walker; she doesn't really need assistance with anything. She prepares her own meals for the PEG, and does her own meds too. But lately, she's been telling me she feels weak. I keep thinking, once she starts to decline, it will go quickly, but my daughter tells me there's no way of knowing.
The saliva problem is already an issue, but she won't let me ask the doctor for a prescription for the suction machine, and she refuses to take the drugs that help to lessen the saliva. Instead, she sits with tissue hanging from her mouth, filling a trash can once a day. She keeps her head down most of the time, so her neck seems to be getting weak, as well. Our kids have made suggestions of things that will make her life easier, but most are rejected and nothing is accepted without an argument.
I know she wants it over, and as much as I hate to lose her, I don't want her to suffer. Telling her that she could still have a few more years would not be an encouragement to her, but I know that's a possibility. It seems she can find nothing worth living for.
I guess I want to know what to expect next. Is it going to happen a little at a time, or all of a sudden? I spoke with my doctor and he says, in the end, she will be in hospice, but how do I know when to make those arrangements?
I would appreciate any advice.
Jim