DeansWife
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Oct 18, 2011
- Messages
- 197
- Diagnosis
- 08/2011
- Country
- US
- State
- AL
- City
- Fairhope
We had a appointment this morning with a gastro. for Dean to discuss getting the peg tube. He agreed to it last week. He has ate very little since 1 Jan. This morning he says, "I want some scrambled egg". I make him a scrambled egg and he eats it all. Then he says "there is no need for the tube, I'm eating". I didn't say anything right away. Shortly thereafter, I told him we needed to discuss it. I pointed out how weak he has been because of not getting enough nutrition. I said that as long as he could eat by mouth, we would not need to use the tube. We would use it only if he doesn't eat by mouth. I told him that while he was somewhat healthy that was the best time to get it, not when he gets so weak and malnurished. He shook his head and wrote on his white board he was eating and he did not want the tube. So, I called and cancelled the doctor appointment. We have advance directives and no feeding tube is part of his wishes there, but to me these circumstances are different. Now I'm depressed and disappointed. I know that I'll have to fight with him to eat every bite.
Did I do the right thing? I just didn't feel that I could force him.
Did I do the right thing? I just didn't feel that I could force him.