I dont know that I have helpful advice... When my husband was diagnosed our social life changed as well as our priorities. He didn't want to go out because he didnt want to see/ talk to alot of people. Even though the only noticable thing about his illness at the time was a limp and an occasional trip and fall. But I did understand, well meaning and caring people asked "How are you? How do you feel? Let me know if I can do anything." Well the answers were "Great, Really good, Thanks we're hanging in there" The real answers>>> "I'm dying, Feel like S*&% all the time, Do you have of a cure?" So being out around friends and socializing was difficult. What we did was have friends(and their kids) over to our house. And when I invited them I flat out said We can talk about anything but the elephant in the room, he doesn't want to talk about it. And guess what? We did have a lot of laughs and fun. I didn't go out on my own much, it made me sad to be out without him and knew that where I belonged was with him, for better or worse. And it wasn't always happy and fun being at home because he was going thru a very difficult time, he was very much to himself during those years (yes, years). Now he is wheelchair bound and going places is very difficult for him( and he has NEVER wanted to be THAT guy in the wheelchair), but I dont think he regrets not doing more the last few years. As long as he has no regrets... and we did talk about that over the years, and he has said this is what I want to do. Not everyone wants to "live like they were dying", some people just want to do what they feel like doing. And who am I to tell him what he feels like doing or should be doing? To a certain extent of course, we do talk about things that are good for him/us to be doing now that he is comfortable doing, those priorities have changed. I have just tried to keep it light and somewhat fun. And I include him in all that is going on, even if he doesn't participate. I do go out a little more now, mostly with the kids. And I can leave for a few hours without breaking into a sweat and feeling like "I HAVE TO GET HOME!" But I also know that things are getting worse and before it gets really bad I need to give more to my kids and recharge myself. When people ask where I have been and why I'm not out more and how I have to get out more, I just honestly say.. Yes it is good to get out sometimes, I enjoy it. But I'm taking care of my family and that is my time well spent - No regrets. My advice, go where your heart tells you to be and be honest with yourself about what you need.