mother-to-be
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- Jun 21, 2011
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- CALS
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- Acworth
Hello!
My father was diagnosed with ALS on June 16, 2011. Onset of symptoms for him began in his right hand in mid-January and have progressed relatively rapidly it seems to me. He is still able to walk, but is just barely shuffling his feet. He's had significant atrophy in the backs of his legs in the past two months and is finding it very hard to get up from a seated position. (Thank God for the lift chair!) He doesn't seem to have much bulbar involvement at this point apart from a hoarse quality to his voice and very slight slurring. So far, he is not having trouble chewing or swallowing, and we are so thankful for that! However, he is having severe gastro issues (alternating between diarrhea and constipation - not sure if this is related to the ALS?) and the thermal regulation issues that seem to plague so many PALS (he sweats profusely and is hot in his upper extremities, but his feet freeze).
My father lives alone 1 1/2 hours away from me, his only child. He does have two wonderful caregivers that alternate weeks with him during the day. I have tried to encourage him to come live with my husband and I, but he wants to stay in his home. I talk to him everyday, and I go up on the weekends to visit and do what I can. I am 9 mos. pregnant with my first child, so it will be more difficult for me to make the trip every week once the baby arrives at the end of the month.
I feel so helpless. I just don't know how best to support him. He is so depressed, and I can't blame him. There is absolutely no comfort with this disease! It's difficult for me to remain positive and keep a good outlook when I visit and call, but I feel like that's what he needs in order to keep from getting sucked too far into his depression.
I apologize for the long-winded post. I guess I'm just wondering how everyone else does it? My father and I both are strong in our faith, and I know that God will see us through, but this is so difficult. We lost my mother three years ago, he lost his sister less than a year ago, and now here we are. It's hard to understand.
Thanks for listening.
My father was diagnosed with ALS on June 16, 2011. Onset of symptoms for him began in his right hand in mid-January and have progressed relatively rapidly it seems to me. He is still able to walk, but is just barely shuffling his feet. He's had significant atrophy in the backs of his legs in the past two months and is finding it very hard to get up from a seated position. (Thank God for the lift chair!) He doesn't seem to have much bulbar involvement at this point apart from a hoarse quality to his voice and very slight slurring. So far, he is not having trouble chewing or swallowing, and we are so thankful for that! However, he is having severe gastro issues (alternating between diarrhea and constipation - not sure if this is related to the ALS?) and the thermal regulation issues that seem to plague so many PALS (he sweats profusely and is hot in his upper extremities, but his feet freeze).
My father lives alone 1 1/2 hours away from me, his only child. He does have two wonderful caregivers that alternate weeks with him during the day. I have tried to encourage him to come live with my husband and I, but he wants to stay in his home. I talk to him everyday, and I go up on the weekends to visit and do what I can. I am 9 mos. pregnant with my first child, so it will be more difficult for me to make the trip every week once the baby arrives at the end of the month.
I feel so helpless. I just don't know how best to support him. He is so depressed, and I can't blame him. There is absolutely no comfort with this disease! It's difficult for me to remain positive and keep a good outlook when I visit and call, but I feel like that's what he needs in order to keep from getting sucked too far into his depression.
I apologize for the long-winded post. I guess I'm just wondering how everyone else does it? My father and I both are strong in our faith, and I know that God will see us through, but this is so difficult. We lost my mother three years ago, he lost his sister less than a year ago, and now here we are. It's hard to understand.
Thanks for listening.