Iloveocean
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- Joined
- Jul 23, 2010
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- Indiana
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- The East
Hello everybody,
my husband passed away on 6/16. I have to say, the last six months were difficult. I had been a caregiver for over thirteen years and I had gone past my breaking point day in and day out for all those years. About ten people have told me how worn out and old I look in the past month. Well, outside the fact that these people need to go back to the brain line and ask for some more, I have to admit to myself that yes, I am tired and I look it. I am 39 and I have friends who at 50 look better than I do. My question is, what has worked for you best in the months after the death of your spouse? So far the best thing that worked for me was staying in a hotel with a jacuzzi for two weeks and getting a deathly expensive facial (I had NEVER had a facial in my life before so this was something completely new to me). I try to eat right, I have a really hard time sleeping which I always contributed to the caregiving part of my life but now I don't know if there is more to it than that so I will go and see a sleep doctor. I bought a really nice kayak and try to go out on the water every day which is very calming and a good upper body exercise. Any other ideas?
thanks guys!
my husband passed away on 6/16. I have to say, the last six months were difficult. I had been a caregiver for over thirteen years and I had gone past my breaking point day in and day out for all those years. About ten people have told me how worn out and old I look in the past month. Well, outside the fact that these people need to go back to the brain line and ask for some more, I have to admit to myself that yes, I am tired and I look it. I am 39 and I have friends who at 50 look better than I do. My question is, what has worked for you best in the months after the death of your spouse? So far the best thing that worked for me was staying in a hotel with a jacuzzi for two weeks and getting a deathly expensive facial (I had NEVER had a facial in my life before so this was something completely new to me). I try to eat right, I have a really hard time sleeping which I always contributed to the caregiving part of my life but now I don't know if there is more to it than that so I will go and see a sleep doctor. I bought a really nice kayak and try to go out on the water every day which is very calming and a good upper body exercise. Any other ideas?
thanks guys!