Jason's Dream
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Please let me know how you take care of your PAL, in regards to rolling them in the bed in order to clean them up from BMs. Is there a service we can call? Is there a way to get around things and get homecare in somehow? Does assisted living places help with that? I need answers and I need them ASAP.
Jason's family has pushed me to the max, and I need to find help in some way to get help to come in to help me change him when he has a BM. Thats the only help I need, and yet, it seems to be impossible to get such help.
His mother and sister have pushed me too far today and I am at the point of throwing my phone across the room at a wall and screaming!
I get a text from his mom out of the blue (considering she NEVER texts or calls to ask how he is doing) saying she wants to start coming over several times a week etc, and what days work best for us. Well, one, it sounded pushy, but two, she actually texted before rudely barging over (for a change), so I tried to explain that each week is different and there is no schedule. We have hospice coming in daily, and sometimes 2-3 people come during the day, then we have day trips planned for Jason to be able to take William to see and do things he wants to do, as well as date nights for Jason and myself, then we have ladies coming in to help with keeping up with the house. This doesn't include the times I need to do grocery shopping or functions at our church. But she doesn't understand and so she was like "which works best, weekends or weekdays".. so I thought I was being good and say, how about Fridays from 1-4. She said fine and said she'd see us tomorrow (today). A few minutes before she was suppose to be over here, she texted that she had to cancel. Who cancels on thier son? thier dying son? Then she was like, can't make it, how about tomorrow? I have plans tomorrow, so it didn't work. So I said see you next friday. Well, so then Jason has a BM, I texted his sister, she doesn't reply, instead, for the third time this week, she just sends someone else over. She has sent her husband over and now she sent Jason's mom. The one that couldn't be bothered with coming today, that I saw on facebook when she was suppose to be here. His sister, doesn't reply that she cant, do you want me to text "such and such"? She takes it on herself to tell someone to come over. Who invites other people to a house that isn't yours? She is not Jason's wife and it wasn't her call to make.
I am soo done with his stupid family. Sorry, just need to vent. I've been trying to be as good as I can, but we are the ones that are losing each other, going through all of this, why do I need to be "nice" to people that don't care about us, that don't respect us or our decisions, that don't like or love us, but only care about themselves and thier own misplaced guilt? Its our house, why do we need to let them in here?
Then the whole time his mom was here, she was constantly telling Jason about the negative family drama. How do you squash that? How do you let people know that he doesn't need to hear crap like that, etc?
Sorry for the vent, but need to know new avenues, as I have had enough.
Thanks.
Jason's family has pushed me to the max, and I need to find help in some way to get help to come in to help me change him when he has a BM. Thats the only help I need, and yet, it seems to be impossible to get such help.
His mother and sister have pushed me too far today and I am at the point of throwing my phone across the room at a wall and screaming!
I get a text from his mom out of the blue (considering she NEVER texts or calls to ask how he is doing) saying she wants to start coming over several times a week etc, and what days work best for us. Well, one, it sounded pushy, but two, she actually texted before rudely barging over (for a change), so I tried to explain that each week is different and there is no schedule. We have hospice coming in daily, and sometimes 2-3 people come during the day, then we have day trips planned for Jason to be able to take William to see and do things he wants to do, as well as date nights for Jason and myself, then we have ladies coming in to help with keeping up with the house. This doesn't include the times I need to do grocery shopping or functions at our church. But she doesn't understand and so she was like "which works best, weekends or weekdays".. so I thought I was being good and say, how about Fridays from 1-4. She said fine and said she'd see us tomorrow (today). A few minutes before she was suppose to be over here, she texted that she had to cancel. Who cancels on thier son? thier dying son? Then she was like, can't make it, how about tomorrow? I have plans tomorrow, so it didn't work. So I said see you next friday. Well, so then Jason has a BM, I texted his sister, she doesn't reply, instead, for the third time this week, she just sends someone else over. She has sent her husband over and now she sent Jason's mom. The one that couldn't be bothered with coming today, that I saw on facebook when she was suppose to be here. His sister, doesn't reply that she cant, do you want me to text "such and such"? She takes it on herself to tell someone to come over. Who invites other people to a house that isn't yours? She is not Jason's wife and it wasn't her call to make.
I am soo done with his stupid family. Sorry, just need to vent. I've been trying to be as good as I can, but we are the ones that are losing each other, going through all of this, why do I need to be "nice" to people that don't care about us, that don't respect us or our decisions, that don't like or love us, but only care about themselves and thier own misplaced guilt? Its our house, why do we need to let them in here?
Then the whole time his mom was here, she was constantly telling Jason about the negative family drama. How do you squash that? How do you let people know that he doesn't need to hear crap like that, etc?
Sorry for the vent, but need to know new avenues, as I have had enough.
Thanks.