genavin
New member
- Joined
- May 10, 2011
- Messages
- 8
- Reason
- CALS
- Diagnosis
- 09/2010
- Country
- US
- State
- WA
- City
- Bonney Lake
Hey all. My husband (44) was diagnosed in September 2010 after about 9 months of hand/arm weakness. Since his diagnosis, his speech and respiration have been moderately impacted, and he's lost quite a bit of weight (but is stable). He hasn't experienced any noticeable weakness in his legs yet, and is still very mobile.
We have three kids, ages 7, 11, and 13, and I have been a stay-at-home mom since our oldest was born. Before my husband's diagnosis, I had decided to return to school to get my Master's in Teaching, so am pursuing that (hoping that by the time I finish, there will actually be teaching jobs available!).
We've shed a lot of tears, are now coming out of what I think was a significant depression, and are starting to tackle some of the questions and issues that we know are ahead. Reading the posts in this forum have been helpful to me. We live in a great community and have very supportive friends, but no family in the immediate area.
My concerns range from financial to the emotional health of our kids (who know their dad is sick, but we have not spelled out the "end" for them, on the advice from many that when they are ready to hear, they will ask - and we'll be honest with them) to having enough support to whether I can manage to continue to raise three kids, go back to work full time and provide caregiving to my husband.
I think one of the hardest things we are dealing with is that we each are struggling with our own issues. Of course, some of the things we're dealing with are the same, but my husband is dealing with the idea of being ill and, eventually, or his own mortality. I am dealing with caring for him, and having to eventually go own without him. We are both scared, but for different reasons.
Today we're ok, and while we're thinking about the future and trying to plan, we are also trying to leave each day in a meaningful way. Thanks for listening/reading - feels good to share some of this with people who have faced the same issues.
We have three kids, ages 7, 11, and 13, and I have been a stay-at-home mom since our oldest was born. Before my husband's diagnosis, I had decided to return to school to get my Master's in Teaching, so am pursuing that (hoping that by the time I finish, there will actually be teaching jobs available!).
We've shed a lot of tears, are now coming out of what I think was a significant depression, and are starting to tackle some of the questions and issues that we know are ahead. Reading the posts in this forum have been helpful to me. We live in a great community and have very supportive friends, but no family in the immediate area.
My concerns range from financial to the emotional health of our kids (who know their dad is sick, but we have not spelled out the "end" for them, on the advice from many that when they are ready to hear, they will ask - and we'll be honest with them) to having enough support to whether I can manage to continue to raise three kids, go back to work full time and provide caregiving to my husband.
I think one of the hardest things we are dealing with is that we each are struggling with our own issues. Of course, some of the things we're dealing with are the same, but my husband is dealing with the idea of being ill and, eventually, or his own mortality. I am dealing with caring for him, and having to eventually go own without him. We are both scared, but for different reasons.
Today we're ok, and while we're thinking about the future and trying to plan, we are also trying to leave each day in a meaningful way. Thanks for listening/reading - feels good to share some of this with people who have faced the same issues.