LornaDoone
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- Joined
- Apr 16, 2010
- Messages
- 215
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 09/2007
- Country
- CA
- State
- BC
- City
- Lower Mainland
I just found out a dear friend, Sharise, has passed away from this dreaded disease. I wanted to share a little story about how we met. You will get the title of this thread by the end of the story. I was so sad about this and was going through this site trying to seek some comfort. And another thread on here about an unsupportive support group got me thinking of this story with my dear friend.
If you have a story of how you've been able to help another or someone has been a big help to you, please also share.
Let's pass it on....
My story about Sharise:
I started going to a support group and it was a real downer. A mixture of PALS and their loved ones. The PALS there felt useless, like they had nothing to contribute anymore. I found myself feeling really down when I left the meetings. I needed support. I am giving of myself so much and do not want to have to deal with all this depression.
However, once I decided to give the group a better chance, it was AMAZING. A dear woman named Sharise and I struck up a friendship. She was feeling the same way as I was and wasn't sure she was going to stay with the group. We both were trying super hard to keep the Living with ALS mentality instead of dying from it. The focus of this group seemed to be how to make the best of things when you are dying. You WILL have this happen to you so prepare for it now. While this is good info, the presentation was horrible. Screw that!
Sharise stood up one day with something on her mind. She said that the group focus was backwards. She mentioned how much people with ALS have to offer, how much the elderly have to offer, etc.. Simply because someone is closer to the end of their time on earth than the general population, does not mean that they are doomed. There are so many little things that PALS can do that will make life easier on them and their loved ones. Yes, there are the depressing, ugly realities of the disease, however, there are many beautiful parts of life still left to live.
I am very thankful that Sharise decided to tough out the group. Without her, I am not sure I would be so well adjusted with all this crap that has been dealt my family.
Sharise passed away after living 4 years with ALS. Such a blessing she is in my life. My hope is to be a blessing to others. Now it's my turn to pass it on.......
If you have a story of how you've been able to help another or someone has been a big help to you, please also share.
Let's pass it on....
My story about Sharise:
I started going to a support group and it was a real downer. A mixture of PALS and their loved ones. The PALS there felt useless, like they had nothing to contribute anymore. I found myself feeling really down when I left the meetings. I needed support. I am giving of myself so much and do not want to have to deal with all this depression.
However, once I decided to give the group a better chance, it was AMAZING. A dear woman named Sharise and I struck up a friendship. She was feeling the same way as I was and wasn't sure she was going to stay with the group. We both were trying super hard to keep the Living with ALS mentality instead of dying from it. The focus of this group seemed to be how to make the best of things when you are dying. You WILL have this happen to you so prepare for it now. While this is good info, the presentation was horrible. Screw that!
Sharise stood up one day with something on her mind. She said that the group focus was backwards. She mentioned how much people with ALS have to offer, how much the elderly have to offer, etc.. Simply because someone is closer to the end of their time on earth than the general population, does not mean that they are doomed. There are so many little things that PALS can do that will make life easier on them and their loved ones. Yes, there are the depressing, ugly realities of the disease, however, there are many beautiful parts of life still left to live.
I am very thankful that Sharise decided to tough out the group. Without her, I am not sure I would be so well adjusted with all this crap that has been dealt my family.
Sharise passed away after living 4 years with ALS. Such a blessing she is in my life. My hope is to be a blessing to others. Now it's my turn to pass it on.......