rbosse
New member
- Joined
- Jan 11, 2011
- Messages
- 3
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Country
- US
- State
- CA
- City
- Garden Grove
I don't know if I'm being selfish, ungrateful for my mom or what but I need some advice on the situation. This is really beginning to put a toll on me to the point where I'm going to break and it's affecting my relationship, my new promotion at work as for sleep/stress at home. I'm not able to leave without someone being with her because she randomly starts choking (not often, maybe once a day.)
I'm 25, living with my fiancée in our home and my mom was diagnosed with ALS about 2 months ago. She is currently living with me and we don't have room for a medical bed anywhere so she's having to sleep on a lift chair (which she enjoys.) She has no insurance as of right now, pending Medicare and possibly Medi-Cal... She does have an IRA with only $49,000 in it and I believe it's "exempt" from getting her disqualified from Medi-Cal. Her and I have talked about using some of that money to put as a down payment on a 2br condo and I will pay the mortgage payments so Medi-cal/Medicare will cover some type of living assistance.
I don't know there is any type of assistance whether it be hospice/assisted living, etc? She's not able to move, eat, bath, or use the restroom without 100% help in which I take care of from 3pm-5am (I work from 6am-2:30pm). Currently a caregiver is there during the day from 9am-3pm but this is also hitting her hard on her disability ($1414/mo). I am at a loss of what to do... Please someone help me out here or point me in the direction of what I can do.... I APPRECIATE and cordially thank you in advance!
I'm 25, living with my fiancée in our home and my mom was diagnosed with ALS about 2 months ago. She is currently living with me and we don't have room for a medical bed anywhere so she's having to sleep on a lift chair (which she enjoys.) She has no insurance as of right now, pending Medicare and possibly Medi-Cal... She does have an IRA with only $49,000 in it and I believe it's "exempt" from getting her disqualified from Medi-Cal. Her and I have talked about using some of that money to put as a down payment on a 2br condo and I will pay the mortgage payments so Medi-cal/Medicare will cover some type of living assistance.
I don't know there is any type of assistance whether it be hospice/assisted living, etc? She's not able to move, eat, bath, or use the restroom without 100% help in which I take care of from 3pm-5am (I work from 6am-2:30pm). Currently a caregiver is there during the day from 9am-3pm but this is also hitting her hard on her disability ($1414/mo). I am at a loss of what to do... Please someone help me out here or point me in the direction of what I can do.... I APPRECIATE and cordially thank you in advance!