Phil's wife
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Apr 19, 2010
- Messages
- 141
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 05/2010
- Country
- US
- State
- NC
- City
- Wake Forest
I have wanted to post this several times in the last few months, but decided against it for many reasons. I know all of us struggle with this disease and watching our loved ones go through this very difficult trial. My question is HOW...how do we go about our daily lives day after day with strength for the next day? I know the right answers - and I work hard to do them each day - I study my scriptures, say my prayers, keep a smile on my face as much as possible, surround myself with great family and friends who support us and thank God for what we have had and every day we have now. But underneath all of this is still too much pain to even think about. I don't allow myself to go to those depths, but wonder if it will crush me one day when it piles too high for me to cover.
Just when we felt like we were over the ALS shock from earlier this year, Phil was diagnosed with stage 4 renal cancer. There is no cure at this point, only hopes that treatment can stabilize what he is left with after they removed the affected kidney.
Not sure anyone has an answer for this, or if there is anything else I can be doing. I worry about the kids too, for I know they see me not upset or crying, is this a good thing or bad? I know it should not consume us or diminish the days we have left, but when do we give ourselves permission to grieve, after it has passed?
All of this is a personal choice and not everyone handles it the same, nor would everyone like to handle it the same....but if anyone wants to share how they deal with this, maybe us newbies could learn something.
God bless all of you and your families,
Stephanie
Just when we felt like we were over the ALS shock from earlier this year, Phil was diagnosed with stage 4 renal cancer. There is no cure at this point, only hopes that treatment can stabilize what he is left with after they removed the affected kidney.
Not sure anyone has an answer for this, or if there is anything else I can be doing. I worry about the kids too, for I know they see me not upset or crying, is this a good thing or bad? I know it should not consume us or diminish the days we have left, but when do we give ourselves permission to grieve, after it has passed?
All of this is a personal choice and not everyone handles it the same, nor would everyone like to handle it the same....but if anyone wants to share how they deal with this, maybe us newbies could learn something.
God bless all of you and your families,
Stephanie