When my mom told me she didn't want a feeding tube she just said "I would get it if it was going to help me get better, but it won't, so I don't want it" How could I argue with that? We had to respect her wishes and I know if I had tried to talk her into getting one, she probably would have - not for herself but for me. My mom did so much for me my whole life being both parents (my dad died in a vehicle accident when I was 11), I couldn't ask her to do yet one more thing for me. People who knew my mom or I tell them about her, all said it is such a brave decision to make. Be at peace with your loved ones decision - weather to get a peg or not - for your own peace of mind. My mom has been gone almost 10 months already. I do still wish she had tried the PEG, she might still be living, but not at all how she wanted to live.