JOSIEM02
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Aug 7, 2009
- Messages
- 134
- Reason
- CALS
- Country
- US
- State
- PA
- City
- waynesboro
Just wanted to give you all an update on my MIL. She had a very nice 2 week visit with her sister and brother in law. They took care of her while we worked but we saw a hugh progression in her right hand and arm and her left leg while they were here. We were surprised that they noticed. We had a family talk with her, her sister, brother in law, my husband and I. At this point her daughter and I had words 3 days prior to this and she showed her mother her true colors. She told us she wasn't willing to help anymore nor did she want to and that she wouldn't be back. So I changed my hours worked with her aides boss to change the hours she came. Barb (MIL) was thrilled but we asked her if the time come that we weren't able to care for her with the progression or she felt it was time that she would agree to a nursing facility. We have always went by her wishes, her body her choice. The first day of the change didn't go well at all. We knew it wasn't a going to work because there were still times she would be by herself. Her hands are no longer working, and now her left leg, her good leg was failing fast. She only walks in and out of the bathroom and that is a hugh struggle with her head drop let alone the legs. 2 hours before I was to leave for work she had a scare with the suctioning and it was then she told me she was afraid to be alone for any amount of time. So I asked her what the answer was and she said a nursing home. We are still in the process of trying to get in home care but they tell us that is weeks away and they can't tell us how many hours it will be when it does come. So we worked with Hospice and yesterday she was admitted. It tears at my heart knowing she wants to be home with us and we want her home with us but it can't be right now. My husband feels like a failure and I tell him he's not. We know that they can give her more care hourly then we can but it just isn't right. You work all your life to end up like this. At her last clinic appointment they told her she probably only has 3 months because of her breathing and that was 1 1/2 months ago. I really don't think she will come home to stay but I pray that I'm wrong. I hope you all are doing well and I have missed you all. Sending prayers and blessings to my forum family. Josie