KinzaDAF
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Jul 30, 2009
- Messages
- 151
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Country
- US
- State
- Illinois
- City
- Naperville
My Dad doesn't seem to be too "with it" most of the time. He gets "confused" about things, like what day it is. For example, he went out to the car and was ready to go to my sister's for Christmas Eve, BUT that was FOUR DAYS AWAY! He has done things like this on more than just that occasion. He cannot speak and refuses to use any kind of communication device. ( It takes a lot of persuasion to SOMETIMES get him to write SOMETHING on a white board but this rarely happens. ) I know it is difficult to sort out denial and depression from dementia but I think he has not been "right" for a long time. He never seemed to grasp the seriousness of his diagnosis and refused to do his speech therapy exercises early-on, as well as just looking at us blankly when we had a speech machine that we were trying to show him how to use. He just kept trying to talk to us, no matter how many times we told him that we just couldn't understand and could he PLEASE write down what he wanted to say. He denied having any shortness of breath ( SEVERAL times ) at the doctor's, even when he very clearly was having difficulty, after which he got his BiPap ). The few times we have succeeded in getting him to write something on his white board ( and ONCE on a computer ), he'd write something and then erase it, seeming to want to get things "just right". What happens is, a word or two will be "clear" ( readable as an actual word ) but then others will just be a mish-mash of letters, not real words at all. What is it that is so "off" in his brain that he will write "nonsense" as though they are words? Is some of his unwillingness to write because he "knows" he cannot write "real" words? This has been going on since last February. ( When he was diagnosed with bulbar palsy, was having a lot of trouble speaking and swallowing. ) Dad seems to be decling fast. That he refuses to communicate has been very tough on my mom. There are "moments" when I think Dad understands what we say to him but most of the time...he seems confused and just can't seem to grasp what is happening. ( May be a blessing in a way? Sigh. ) He wakes multiple times during the night, having to use the bathroom. He refused using a urinal. Mom was at the end of her string. Dad didn't ( or couldn't ) see it. Now an indwelling catheter has been put in so that Mom can ( hopefully ) get some sleep. Those who are familiar with dementia and ALS. please help explain to me what is going on. We are all so sad.
Debbie
Debbie