rocmg
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well, i'm just off the phone to my best friend... we haven't spoken in nearly two weeks as i have been busy with mum and he has been working a lot. the thing is, we talked for half an hour and he didn't ask me how i was ONCE. he didn't ask about mum or how i was coping or anything. he spent the entire time talking about the great nights out he had last weekend and last night, and a new club opening he attended. then he talked about his relationship and how they've had another argument. i just listened and asked questions, and it wasn't until he hung up that i felt really hurt. normally we try to go out every now and then on a saturday evening for a glass of wine or something, but he didn't even ask me because he and his boyfriend were doing something together tonight.
my other friend hasn't been in touch for a few days either, even though we were planning a christmas shopping trip next weekend. she hasn't mentioned anything about that, but did find time to email me to tell me her friend bought tickets for them to go to Paris for her birthday. she's also very moody with me because sometimes we try to meet up and i can't because there's no one to look after mum. she doesn't really understand that my life is not my own anymore. that mum is my first priority and i have to schedule my life around that -- i am her full time caregiver after all.
i guess it just gets me down -- how do i make them understand that i need some support and understanding? how can i make them understand how truly terrible my life can get sometimes? i have hinted at it -- but it makes them uncomfortable and i feel uncomfortable for making them uncomfortable and then i'll quickly have to change the subject. it just feels like i have no one there to be strong for me. i'm just tired of being strong all the time -- but then, i'm not a talker and i do tend to keep a lot of my feelings to myself.
i haven't lived at home since i was 18 and i'm now 25 -- so that's pretty hard too.
*sigh* -- here's hoping 2010 will be a better year than this!
my other friend hasn't been in touch for a few days either, even though we were planning a christmas shopping trip next weekend. she hasn't mentioned anything about that, but did find time to email me to tell me her friend bought tickets for them to go to Paris for her birthday. she's also very moody with me because sometimes we try to meet up and i can't because there's no one to look after mum. she doesn't really understand that my life is not my own anymore. that mum is my first priority and i have to schedule my life around that -- i am her full time caregiver after all.
i guess it just gets me down -- how do i make them understand that i need some support and understanding? how can i make them understand how truly terrible my life can get sometimes? i have hinted at it -- but it makes them uncomfortable and i feel uncomfortable for making them uncomfortable and then i'll quickly have to change the subject. it just feels like i have no one there to be strong for me. i'm just tired of being strong all the time -- but then, i'm not a talker and i do tend to keep a lot of my feelings to myself.
i haven't lived at home since i was 18 and i'm now 25 -- so that's pretty hard too.
*sigh* -- here's hoping 2010 will be a better year than this!