Grrrr !!!

[biskethed]

:-x My wife Dx 8/09 returned to the hospital on a Hospice admin yesterday with pneumonia. Today Hospice let me know they want to have a family meeting to discuss moving her to a care facility. I want to swear a lot but there isn't anyone to direct my anger at. She is the love of my life, and it feels like i am losing half of myself. I don't know if this means Hospice doesn't think she has much longer or what. I will not be the one to put her into a home, I have always promised her I wouldn't. Her brother has Med power of attorney, so if it has to be done he will. Sorry all just venting.

[shelleynshaggy]

Thoughts and prayers are with you.

[tdamess]

don't blame you for one minute ,i would be upset also .but, thier is probley a reason she gave him medical power of attorney my thinking is that he would do what she think's would be too hard for you to do or to be the one to 2nd guess yourself and bring any amount of guilt to yourself as i want a special friend to be mine just for that reason. i know thing's are tough right now but, you did come to the right place to vent . my thought's are with you

[Jeannie]

You are in my thoughts and prayers

[Blackpool]

My thoughts and prayers are with you

[brooksea]

Very sorry about your wife's situation. I suppose you will find out more at the family meeting. Can hospice not be administered at your home?

Thinking of you during this difficult time.

[Erica]

thinking and praying for both of you.

[sharona]

Prayers for the both of you.Put your trust in God .

Sharon

[Connie]

Hi Biskethead.

You need to talk with the the hospice staff to find out why they think that it is appropriate to refer her to long term care and not home with you.

It may that her nursing needs supersede what you can reasonably be expected to provide at home. It really is a difficult, emotional feeling that makes you feel guilty even though it may be the best dolution to accomodate your wife's needs.

[biskethed]

Got the call today, they can't get her fever down, and the pneumonia isn't going away. Dr want's a decision as to whether she will be transferred home to die. Hospice on their way to the hospital........: cry:

[KinzaDAF]

I'm so sorry. ( Now *I'm crying! ) My prayers are with you.

Debbie

[indigosd]

oh...I am so sorry :[ I wish that I could help you.

[thelma313]

I am so sorry to hear this. It will be a comfort to her that you are by her side. Your love will get you through. My thoughts are with you.

[brooksea]

So very sorry for this sad turn of events. We are with you in spirit. I hope you will let us know how she is doing and how you are holding up.

[Zaphoon]

I am very sorry to hear your wife is in such a way. I hope the family can pull together for all concerned, especially your wife.

Prayers and thoughts are with you!

Zaphoon

[KeeKer]

Grrrr, so sorry to hear about the turn of events. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Colleen

[Katie C]

Aw biskit... so very sorry to hear this. Hang in there.

[tdamess]

i am sorry also hopeing for the best for you and wife

[GlenBrittle]

Damn Biskit,

I am sad to hear about your wife. Hoping for the best.

If you still want to swear and cuss , come on back , we will be waiting for you and will be ready to listen.

Glen

[Blackpool]

Prayers and thoughts are with you all.

[shelleynshaggy]

What a terrible turn of events - hoping for the best for both of you. Still in our thoughts and prayers.

[DgtofTNfan]

My heart goes out to you more than you will ever know.
My prayers are with you.
Dana

[crystal-b]

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers

[Al]

Sorry for this sad turn of events biskethed. Take care.

AL.

[Alida1004]

So sorry about your wife.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and yours!
Alida

[pamnandy]

Oh I'm so sorry to read about your heartache. Please know we are with you in spirit.

[Micheline_h]

I'm so sorry to hear this, you and your wife are in my prayers.

[paleshia]

praying for you lots today!

jen

[shelly2612]

I am sorry that your having to go thru this. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Just stick together with your family and take one day at a time, spend as much time with her as you can.

[biskethed]

She is home, not able to get the pneumonia cleared up entirely. I don't want her to suffer anymore. She is now only able to move her good side slightly, and it takes an hour to understand what she needs. I am so sad for her it feels almost unbearable. Just discovered that the in home care she is getting is costing me $800 a week. Almost equal to my income, can't pay the caregivers and still feed and house the kids, can't quit my job, to take care of her.
I did set up an account for donations, so her family and church can help out some, don't know if that will work or not. I am pissed at god for allowing this to happen to my wife. She doesn't deserve this suffering. Makes me want to swear a lot...

[tdamess]

hopeful fund raiser will help my prayers sre with you

[hopeful warrior]

Oh, God bless you. God bless us all. Yes, this is horrible for everyone. I am sending prayers your way.

[Blackpool]

What a terrible situation,when you are least expecting it things will turn out all right I hope it is soon take one day at a time . My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Katie C]

awww Biskit... I'm so sorry things are looking so grim. If you need to swear.. do it. My son will occasionally call me from work just to say "This is still bull&*%$ right?" "Yes Kev, it still is." "OK" Conversation over. I have a few issues with God myself... my brilliant father died of Alzheimer's complications, my marathon running rocket scientist husband has ALS with Cognitive Involvement. Not Funny!! But I figure She has very broad shoulders and can put up with us humans coping as best we can, even if it includes the occasional "Rant against God"

Take care of yourself.. your family needs you to!