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I am really sad to say this but my mom passed away on Friday September 21. I am in shock.
My mom was diagnosed with motorneuron disease with bulbar symptoms on June 2006. She never lost her mobility and fine motor skills which I am rather relieved with. She was able to write us messages up until a few short hours before her passing.
She was taken to the ICU on September 18th and was unable to be off of the oxygen for any length of time. Unfortunately Thursday she took a turn for the worse. She was given morphine to help her. Even with morphine she had moments where she was rather aggravated, I think she could not decide if she wanted to leave us. However it was her time to go with my dad and my brother whom she had not been with for 36 years. She then peacefully passed. I am thankful that I was there the entire 3 1/2 days during her journey to heaven.
Treasure every moment because they only become memories. ....
God Bless you all,
Anne
UNIONVILLE, ONTARIO
lunarruna
09-26-2007, 08:35 AM
Oh Anne...My heart goes out to you. Your Mom was so lucky to have you (and you her). I lost my husband in July.
Thank you for letting us know. Sending you peace during this tough time..
Beth (former CALS to husband Shannon)
Icanmanz
09-26-2007, 08:57 AM
Anne, may God bless you, dear! Your post brought me to tears. It is not easy to read these posts. It is not easy, because most of them are heartbreakers, but I just can't walk away from this forum. I may not be the best when it comes to try to be of some help, but it makes me feel so much better when I try to be there for my friends, Pals and Cals! May your sweet mother rest in peace. Keep us posted. Our Father will lead you through this. Prayers your way, hon!
Irma
Icanmanz
09-26-2007, 08:59 AM
luna, hi! I remember when I read your post about Shannon's passing, and I told you I have a son named Shannon! How are you doing, dear? Prayers!
Irma
Jamiet
09-26-2007, 09:39 AM
May god bless you and your family
Thanks for taking the time to let us know Anne during this difficult time. Our thoughts are with you.
AL.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I'm sorry to hear of your mom's passing.
nsmith555
09-26-2007, 04:48 PM
Anne,
My Prayer go out to you that God will grant you overwhelming peace and understanding and will take you through this with His steady hand.
God be with you,
Nicki
Thank you all for your kind words. Anne
CindyM
09-26-2007, 07:34 PM
I am sorry for your loss, Anne. Please keep in touch with us as you grieve the loss of your Mom. Cindy
sherry0459
09-26-2007, 09:43 PM
Anne, I am so sorry for your families loss. It sounds like to me that you were a wonderful daughter and care giver. The Lord carries us sometimes. Just like He carried your Mom home. I lost my Mom in '97 and still miss her. Alzemhiers. I would not wish her back...but I sure could use a hug occasionally. I go to my flower bed were she loved to be and feel that hug, smell her beauty and see her in the beautiful blooms. Of course your Mom lives on in your life and heart. My prayers are with you and yours. Please stop in to the forum and let us know how you all are. God blessed you!! Sherry
TerryO
09-27-2007, 12:12 AM
Anne, I am very sorry for your loss. I wish you the very best and my heart goes out to you at this sad time. Terry
jimercat
09-27-2007, 09:30 PM
Anne,
So sorry you lost you Mom. Hope you and your family will find peace, just as your Mom has.
newtothis
10-01-2007, 01:12 PM
My Dad, age 59, passed away on September 21st too. Of ALS.
I completley know what you are going through, and to be honest, I think I am still in a surreal place...
Feel free to PM me if you would like to chat.
My prayers are with you....
jimercat
10-01-2007, 05:45 PM
newtothis,
I'm very sorry you lost your Dad. I wish you and your family good thoughts. Hope you will find peace as he has.
CindyM
10-01-2007, 07:08 PM
Hello Newtothis and welcome to the forum. Sorry you lost your Dad. The folks around here are very supportive so feel free to write anytime as you grive his loss. We are here for you. Cindy
Newtothis,
I am really sorry to hear about your dad....I hope you are doing much better than I am. I had so much energy when I was looking after my mom and now I am having great difficulty just getting off the sofa.
I am not sure why but I was unable to send you a private message, if you wish you can email me at
amshearer@rogers.com
newtothis
10-02-2007, 10:59 AM
Honestly, I really do not know how I am doing....
A little about me, I've never really posted on here, but I am constantly reading the posts everyday. It helps. It really makes you feel that you are not alone.
My Dad was diagnosed last September. So, I guess its been pretty much exactley a year. He passed at home, just where he wanted to be. And if I had to pick a way, how it would all play out, I guess you could say we were lucky.
I live far away, but would fly home every two weeks to see him. The week before he passed, he sat me down and talked to me about everything. He knew it was coming.... and he told me he loved me and all that and I told him how much I loved him etc... we were very close. He passed 5 days later.
Last week the funeral came and went, and now I am back to life working etc...
Its weird, I feel a huge relief. I was sick to my stomach for the past year worried about him, and hated seeing him and my family suffer.... so I feel a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulder. However, along with that feeling, I feel guilty for feeling relieved- does that make sense?
I am also worried about my Mom being alone. They were married for 39 years.
Its really, really crazy.......
I just don't know what to do.
CindyM
10-02-2007, 06:07 PM
Hi Newtothis- at my ripe age I've been through some tough losses and some not-so-tough losses and I can honestly say even I could not always predict which would be which. But I have learned to expect a lot of deep emotions-the kind that sweep you away. And not all of those emotions are to be expected. I guess with death there is no “normal.” You are doing fine. And remember we are always here for you, no matter how you feel. Cindy
mrstadpole
10-03-2007, 05:03 PM
Your family will forever be in my thoughts and prayers.
God Bless~
Kari
trustinggod
10-03-2007, 11:13 PM
Hi Newtothis,
I am sorry that you are going through this.
I understand exactly how you feel -- feeling guilty that you feel relieved.
I still feel guilty (it's been 10 months) that I feel relieved that I no longer have to watch
Linda suffer. Not to mention feeling relief from constant back aches from lifting her, turning her and re positioning her in her chair or bed almost constantly. I even remember thinking a few times before she died that I would feel relieved when I didn't have to brush her teeth for her anymore or use the cough assist machine or suction equipment as well as feed her through her G-tube. Not because of the work involved simply because I'd have to look into her eyes with each task I'd do for her and see her pained expression at the complete loss of control over her body. Caring for someone in that position is emotionally intimate beyond measure and in my opinion, impossible to not become overwhelmed at times.
It helps me to remember that what I did for Linda made it possible for her to stay at home and never need to have a paid stranger (besides the wonderful hospice bath nurse towards the end) care for her. I know that I helped her maintain some sense of dignity when she had lost all control.
Look for the many great things you did for your father and remember them often.
Please take care of yourself. I'll be praying for you.
Jeanne
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