Whine and Cheese

[marypat]

I agree with you, Sally. And it's probably not my place to say that you cleaning out the car for the cleaner who has yet to clean sounds off to me or that she gave birth to said cleaner

[marypat]

My own whine... Why is it that people feel they can tell your acquaintances things about you. If I had wanted them to know I might have taken it upon myself to tell them. And when confronted they say I was doing it for you. I'm not sure how disclosing my information is doing anything for me but when I get annoyed about it I get the dreaded" now Mary"

[cervus]

You are a real warrior Di. Ugh! I'm with the others that suggested social services or moving to your son's place.

[kiwisally]

I get the...now Mary look....and my name is not Mary. It must be universal. As to why...probably the same reason my friends talk about me to the hair dresser. If I wanted her to know particular bits I'd tell her. You lost me on the cleaner talk Mary. She is not related. Now I have more fun for the afternoon. Pressured into going to visit people I would rather not. Will take the whole afternoon, I will be worn out tomorrow. I have managed to put it off for 4 months so will bite the bullet this time and next time just say it's too hard and refuse to go. I'm thinking I need to learn to put my foot down more.

[marypat]

Sally what I meant was you should not have had to clean the car so that the cleaners husband borrow it. They should have cleaned it as a thank you for you letting them borrow it. That would have been me cleaning the car so my kids could borrow it. You probably cleaned it to be nice as I would've but it's a little twisted that you cleaned something before she did. Don't get too worn out on your visit

[kiwisally]

I understand now and agree, I just have a hard time changing behaviour from BALS to AALS. I'm sure all understand. Like I said the cleaner and her husband are trying to do a good dead for someone. Thanks for the explanation. I've not slept well in a few nights and am getting a bit punchy, need a nap more than a visit but that is the way of it.

[marypat]

I. Totally understand. I just saw the irony in it when I read it. It just proves how caring you are.

[kmendsley]

Replacement Dragon has arrived. hooray...best buy exchanged it for me right away.

In the mean time, I have caught up on other threads and noticed our 'hangin' friend just wrote another doozie under the cals section. I couldn't close my mouth because what he was writing just made me feel sick inside. I still am trying to think of a reply...the only thing my brain would say was 'really?!'

[dldred]

Going to check out the new post, let you know if I get mad and say what I think.

Dana

[dldred]

Okay, I replied to his post and stooped to his level, I couldn't help myself. I started out very nice but lost it at the end. I feel sorry for his poor wife. I really hope he isn't as bad as he seems.

Dana

[kmendsley]

Yeah I wanted to wait so that I could get my thoughts together. I didn't think 'really' would do it for him. I feel for his wife...so sad.

[Toto's Dorothy]

Kiwi,
You better put that foot down while you can. I'm sorry that just slipped out.

Di is moving to her sons just taking her rv with her. Maybe we could pass the hat and have it towed for her. And Di, no more awning dancing, ok?

I know what you girls mean about people talking about you. My "husband" has taken it upon himself to talk to relatives who have removed us from their lives. This caused a big fight here when I told him this was my private info not for everybody to know. His response was this affects the whole family. Uhm, no I don't think so. People at wal ma rt would stop my daughter and ask how I was. Wal ma rt, how in the world did they know? I mean small town but still?!

This is my life and I witll let those I want to know know. Simple as that! I want some pepperjack, feeling a little spicy tonight!

[kiwisally]

I complained to moderator about one of his other ones, not the one that got removed but another one, was told he needs to be able to speak his mind or some such and that it wasn't bad enough to take action, that just because I didn't "like" it that was not enough. I wrote back that it wasn't just ONE but many, was told to bring it to their attention next time it happened. I suggest anyone who finds a post of his offensive hit the report button and maybe they will sort him out.

[cervus]

I was looking for his previous thread but couldn't find it. I thought it had been removed but now it's been confirmed. I just read his latest and I wanted to say something but I think I said it all in a previous post to him. I don't think it's worth it. For him to keep posting what he is, he really is looking for reactions OR he "ain't quite plumb" himself, not to mention selfish and self centered, etc. etc..

[BeckyW]

We went to eat at a place on the water we have been to many times the past few years. I ordered the lobster mac and cheese. This time it had garlic and parsley so I couldn't eat it. I have IBS so I have triggers that make me ill. Garlic and onions are in everything it seems. Pass me some cheddar please. We're Vermonters and we love maple syrup. We have a frieńd who sugars and gives us some every year.

[notgivnup]

Ok ..I have stopped in to whine & have some cheeze, Lots and lots of cheeze...Doc said if I dont stop losing weight and gain some in the next 4 weeks he has me schudled for a peg,,,whine , whine , whine, Going on my bipapa now, whine, whine whine, I am ok after the night fro HE LL! There must have been atleast 30 gallons of water in drupping awnig as it broke and I had a nice shower and hair wash ..LOL...I can laugh now but not last night as I was yelling for help and no one came. I was so angry. I have survived,! wished I could say the same for my awning, we will try and fix it but most likely it will be awhile to replace, I'm sure my mcGyver son will fix it just fine. Thanks again sharlene for being there I sure needed some support this morning.

[st123]

So glad you're feeling better tonight, Di. Bipap and a nap sounds like a good idea now - you need rest. Rest and then a snack! Hope you have lots of food in that RV!

[notgivnup]

Thanks sharlene, son will see to that, food that is, eating second lunch as we speak. You we so kind to me in the we hours as I was freaking out, Muwah!

[Ms. Pie]

God bless you Di and God bless your sweet son. Ganight sweet princesses!

[notgivnup]

Good night marta sister warrior..sweet dreams...Yes it is raining but I feel safe and awning is all rolled up so no worries. {{{HUGS}} Bless your sweet heart.

[kiwisally]

Di, glad to hear you feel safe tonight. I'll sleep better myself knowing.

[notgivnup]

Thanks Kiwi...it feels different, kinda sad leaving the other part of my family, specially the grandkids...but daughter still not sure why she is avoiding me, we love each other so much, I think she wants to stay in denial, I feel bad for her as she doesn't really know how I am doing now. But I know I can get more help here but cant help other kids anymore.whiine,whine...... Feel kinda torn. But this is for the best, and my son got everything in rv working, heater, hot water, am stoked!. And gas burners, not that I cook but can if I want, just to high, maybe a tall stool would work..hmmmm. I havent cooked for a year. I am sure since he cooks for the kids I will be invited to all their meals....... Sleep well my friend, I know I will. {{HUGS}}

[Toto's Dorothy]

Di,
I'm glad you're awake. I have b een very lonely alll day and tomorrow will beethe same. Someone was home all day bet I saw her for a total of 30 minutes if that. Its amazing how selfish children can be.

[notgivnup]

Hi Toto, yes they can..I called daughter when I got here to thank her and talk about what doc said, our call wad dropped she never called back, never said see ya or anything...*sigh*

[Toto's Dorothy]

And ttomorrow will be worse. I don't know what to do. Husbaand is going away tomorrow, son has games tomorrow, daughter is leaving for the weekend and I will be alone with little one for over 10 hoours. I asasked older daughter to put nappy on because an 11 year old can't lift me on potty even if she could she wouldn't. So I will be in nappy for 10+ hours until husband comes home around 11. Aand don't ask me what's in the house for dinner for her to eat. Maybe old one will et her something thattshe can rewarm. I think or I should say I know the nursing home is the best place for me, just got to get tthat wheelchair. Clinic is Wednesday and neuro appoinnttment is Monda. So I wonder how long before my chair gets approoved?

[Toto's Dorothy]

Its almost 3 am her,e its about 7 there right

[notgivnup]

Toto, it is 9:50pm right now..That is so sad, I am so sorry they are leaving you all alone for sooo long, what are they thinking?..I know they are not just like my daughter never thought of me while there for 2 years...maybe you could call your doc and get a script for a nurse to come in?...maybe?. I know how lonely one can gey, not a good feeling. I wish I could help you, but big {{{HUG}} is best I can do for now and I am spent, whole bidy is sore and not working well, going to bed at 3:00 am last night was why much with the moving and all. I don think I can even type much mor, but hate yo leave you here alone too...:-(

I just have to sleep, I am so so sorry, any other time I would hang around with you all night, I really would but I am exhausted so must sleep..I love you and will pray for you as I drift off my friend, you need yo sleep also..Sleep well and tomarrow I will catch up on everything, or sleep all day.....:-)
I LOve you {{{HUGS}}

[Toto's Dorothy]

My best friend morphine is gone. I'm going to miss him. The house was tolerable with him by my side for support. I had some conflictting behavior from husband tonight and two nights ago. Two nights ago I told him I loved him and his response was that's good and he walked away. Last night I asked for a kiss and he reluctantll leaned over aand gave me a small one on the lips. Tonight I didn't bothhr saying anytting and he leaned over aad kissed me goodnight. Was he just beieng nice or toying with my emotions I can't tell. I said wow I didnt need to ask. Maaybe I shouuld hhave shut my mouth.

Go to sleep, I will catceh up wiith you tomorrow since I will bb here all day with nothinggto do. Anerememer no more awning danciigg, got me?

Love and sleep well


Toto

[notgivnup]

Ok sweets, not doing anything but sleep..you do the same. Him kissing you with out asking now that's awesome!!!

[HelenL]

Dorothy, I've been getting hugs from my hubby all of a sudden, I think it was because last week was so horrible. Don't question it, just accept it at this point. Where does your sister live, anywhere near you? You should try to get your family to get a schedule written down so you'll at least have some coverage everyday for your basic needs, not to mention some company!

Di, I'm so sad about your daughter avoiding the issue, sticking your head in the sand isn't dealing with life is it. Sounds like you're going to be a lot better off at your son's, and maybe grandchildren will come over there and spend some time with you?

Wishing you both get some sleep!

[Ms. Pie]

I just feel so much love for you Helen and Dorothy and Di. Wish we could all live together.

[kiwisally]

Hey Toto, I see your light on. You are not alone, we are here, don't forget it!

[Ms. Pie]

****like**** Sally's post!

[Toto's Dorothy]

Agh,,sttupid wifi fonnectin. Why dont I look before I post. Now I forgot what I postee. Hsband decided notvto work two ofvthe three events todqy. Sqid it was tjoo long forr me to be alonee. Wjondering if he's readingg things again. If I disappear for a while ddont worryz I'll bbe bback fresh and new if you understand. I think its going to be a cheesey weekend. I hoppe I have enough for the weekend. Husband went to activate m new phone. And woohoo, got my neuro appt and wheelchair cjinic appointmenjs this week and transportajtion set up too. I'm on a roll. My wheels are spinning in the brain not beloww mjy feet

So, Helen thee may be hope for my marriaje yet. I would hate to see 34 years go down the drain. But I'm not gkoing to cry over ittanymorr eitherj!

[HelenL]

I know what you mean toto.... I'm gonna call you that if that's ok... I love toto! I've been in bed most of the day today, got up wasn't ambitious, and my feet were SO cold, so i'm lollgagging in bed with toasty toes next to the heating pad. Don't feel like doing much of anything but will get up and try to walk with the walker for a few minutes and see how I do... that should be a sight.

Marta, I think that's a great idea, adjoining rooms for all of us, and we can shower together, all hanging around in our birthday suits! NOT that part , that would be a scary sight. love you ladies too!

[HelenL]

Oh, I didn't even have to get up for lunch, my son made me grilled cheese and brought it to me! How spoiled am I? :)

[Ms. Pie]

:) Not spoiled enough Helen! And I think we should all shower separately in our own bathrooms.

[kiwisally]

That all sounds just GREAT Toto, (I think) for a change! Hi Pie, Helen, Di.

[HelenL]

Ah Marta, you're no fun!

[Alyoop]

Hey girls, this thread has hijacked the cup of tea. I don't know where to look. Never forgive you Dorothy ! Just kidding :)
Helen, so glad you got spoilt. You deserve it.
I am going to move in with y'all and be the nurse. To save time though, I will put you all in a row and just hose y'all down, then get a giant blow dryer! Ha ha. I will cook you cup cakes everyday! That will keep the weight on. oh and my super yum bread, although I can't always swallow that down!

My cheese for the day:

Di is being spoilt by son
Helen is resting and being spoilt by son
Dorothys Hubby has had a change of heart, bless him

Going to be a better day today for y'all.

Oh and joni, thanks for teaching me to say y'all. It saves me writing so much :)

Love

[kiwisally]

Aly, I used to hit New Posts, but got sick and tired of all the crap, it was getting me down, so swore off for a week, now I go to the Group Forums, hit Tea, find Tea and Whine and Cheese right there and am all set! No fuss, no muss just good...............

[Alyoop]

Yes, I do that mainly as well. Just hang out here. It's way to easy for people to take what you say the wrong way. A forum can be a bit like Chinese whispers :).

I saved a beautiful King fisher last night. Had never seen one up close. Beautiful birds! It flew into the window, knocked itself out cold. I got it before ruby decided to toss it around like a toy. It's wee heart was still beating and it came to after about half an hour. When I first let it go, it was flying well, but still a little confused and hit the house, where my cat jumped on it. I saved it again, waited another hour till it had it's little brain straight and off it flew, no problem. Felt so good to have saved it. I have lost 3 birds and a hedgehog, over the summer, that I saved, only to have them die suddenly overnight. Finally a success:)

[susanf]

Me too Sally. Positive thoughts = good mood!!
Whining is fun though. I'm fluent in whinese :)

[HelenL]

I know, I have to keep switching back and forth from whine and cheese and tea and brownies! Don't know what to do all I'm doing is going to the bathroom with all these liquids!

[Ms. Pie]

Alypie! The bird saviour! Saint Aly of New Zealand! As Sally would say, good on ya! Your role as our nurse sounds good cupcakes and all. I don't know about hosing us down, can't you get a strapping male assistant to pat us dry with big fluffy towels and powder? Now that sounds good. You can hose us down if we get dry that way. Cupcakes, strapping assistant, big fluffy towels and powder. Aaaahhhh...

[Ms. Pie]

Brad fixed me a Jack and water so my imagination is stimulated.

[susanf]

A good looking Latin named Manolo :)

[susanf]

I know, I'm bad

[Ms. Pie]

Yesssss...
We're all bad...

[susanf]

Heh, heh, heh, it's too much fun not to be ;)

[BeckyW]

Argggg! I typed a long whine on my iPad then lost it all. I can only use one finger to type . ALS sucks!

[Ms. Pie]

Yes it does Beck. I'm sorry you lost your whine but that's a good whine in itself!

[LizT]

Lori- got that right. Some just dont get it. maybe one day....
Here's my whine. Firstly- im pissed that Dorothy and Di arent being taken care of the way they should be. They arent even being taken care of like HUMANS. That really trips my trigger.
Second whine- the VA!!! (Non-als related) My dad was taken into ER on friday. He hadnt eaten in a week. was barely drinking. passed out, landed in the bathtub and lost bowel continence. He couldnt sit up. He was turning brown. Its all related to a disc problem in his back that he still hasnt had proper care for... 8 months later!!! Some stupid quack VA doc told my dad to take 2400mg of Ibuprofen when he took it. Hes been doing this for 8 months. Well he overdosed!!! the lining of his stomach is GONE. He is soooo dehydrated....
He also has diverticulitis, and that was acting up so they gave an antibiotic. How long does this VET need to be in constant pain before something is done? my dad has been healthy his whole life. he hasnt abused the VA. yet they dont want to pay for squat. REALLY???? The man faught in a WAR! What more does he need to do to get adequate and timely care? Oh he is also suicidal from being in so much pain for so long, and being couped up in the tiny basement apartment he lives in. He's disabled. HELP MY DAD STUPID VA!!!

ok. whine over.... for now

[kiwisally]

Maybe we need a "Pee and Poo" under Tea, DO NOT DARE MAKE IT TOTO!

[Alyoop]

2400 mg of ibuprofen???? You have got to be kidding? The stuff is great at the correct dose, but always effects the stomach lining. The normal dose is 400 mg 4 hourly, but you wouldn't want to do that for 8 months! Omgoodness! Your poor granddad. He must feel awful. I hope they can help him and get better more gentle meds sorted out soon.

[sadiemae]

Here is how I navigate. I just hit user cp. It shows me all the threads that I have commented on that have new posts on them. If I need to find a post I have commented on and there are no new posts on it I hit view all subscribed threads and it shows all the posts I have commented on. If I want to just follow a thread without commenting I hit thread tools and then subscribe to thread

[trfogey]

Maybe we need a "Pee and Poo" under Tea, DO NOT DARE MAKE IT TOTO!

Pee and poo are traditional topics on the Come for Tea thread. Along with DD's. ;)

[Ms. Pie]

Yes they are, quite frequently Allen! but what are DD's?

[kiwisally]

Drinking, Drugs & Sex is all that come to my mind Pie.

[Ms. Pie]

I was think someone's cup size Sally. Hmmm...

[kiwisally]

And I forgot to add...once again Allen, the patience of a saint! If I had half as much I'd be a much happier camper.

[kiwisally]

DD's, double D's as in boobs? Could be.

[sadiemae]

Yes that is it. Forget who started that one!!

[kiwisally]

A man? A man? ....hate that message to short message

[Ms. Pie]

Hmmm..I missed that discussion. I've been in on many pee and poo exchanges though!

[Toto's Dorothy]

Hey ladies and m speeciall allen,

My first man to come for a little whine. But alas, he pajrtook of the cheese
And I wouldn't j call it that it would be pi$$ and $ # i + but ea used that in tjeir early stages I think we hhave mattured sincel ttenj

Sorry fojr typos tihe phone has beeen repllaced twice second and third were worse so waiting to get new one activated. Ipad has a mind or vocabulary all itts own.

Double ds was for someones bob size can't remember whicjh one. But we can use my sisrlter but now since she only has onje I don't think she really is that double d. An she told her husband when she has her other ne remjved she was going outside with no shirt on. Her husband says she can't. Ithink she can. Any thoughts.

Jujsst to put out thre, I want everyone to know jjust like tejja this theaad can't be hijacked by one person. We won't let them. I understand some people like the ME but this and tta are the WE. Apy an correct me if I am wrong on her end.

So my whine for today,, pass the big bread bowl of spinach dip, is I have asked for a month otlr more to move my bed and two pieces ofjfj furniture so I caan jsee out the winddowjs and again I am sitting here not moveed. So I opened my mouthbl and made a scene. I don't care anymorem does anybody know how fast th stupid teajrs come and you can't even hidje it. If I didn't have tjo complete what ipromised to someone, I think those railroad tracks ae quite inviting.

Something so simple ten minutes. Now I know I'm not even worth ten frijcking minutes. And now I'm sorry he snot is runnij dowjn my ajrm.

[st123]

Dorothy, I sure wish you were here where I could help!

[Toto's Dorothy]

Where to h€<< and back?

[trfogey]

The original DD reference was from HelenL, as shorthand for Dunkin' Donuts. A certain Kiwi hijacked the term, which drew several men in from lurking. Look in the original Come for Tea thread, round about the autumnal equinox.

[kiwisally]

Well to h e l l anyway, I'm not sure we are back just yet! Toto don't apologise for the typo's they make it more interesting. lol 10 minutes of moving furniture to give you a view that would give hours of pleasure, that is a whine worth posting about. I'd move the bed for you if I was there, somehow, probably involve the use of a rope and a car but move she would! I TOTALLY understand about the tears and hiding it so ball away baby ball away if that is what it take to motivate people ,so fricking be it. Forget the rail road tracks! Too easy, you are made of better stuff than that! (not that I have't considered them myself mind you but just in passing)

[Alyoop]

Firstly the dd's are mine ( were, I shrunk) and it referred to Dana. Long ago, trust Allen to remember :).

And sweet Toto. I feel like putting my fist through the wall on your behalf. Grrrrrr, I once put my foot through a door when I was annoyed at one of my daughters, ouch it hurt. Took Hubby ages to fill it in. The hole was enormous. Sadly same daughter angered me a year later and I slammed the door..........all the plaster fell out again :).
Dry your eyes and your snot from your arm, or you may wash away. Darn I wish I could come help move you. Darn, international immigration laws. I would move you here in a flash, if you lived in NZ. Free care and all. Sigh.

Oh Allen, you were right, you posted while I was writing. Must have been kiwi Sally? Oh I already confessed........at least I got some hunky men on this part of the forum.

[Alyoop]

Sally, you sound very Kiwi indeed.

[kiwisally]

I've been here 15 years, a bit rubbed off. I can turn it on and off if I think about it but don't often bother.

[kiwisally]

Aly would you have know about Dunkin Donuts? We just got proper bagels in Wellington about 8 years go. $25 a bakers. Last week I asked my friend in NC, (Ina is her name btw, lol) how much they were there, $8! That got me upset. NC for goodness sake! Flour and water.....had to look up and make sure I was in Whine and cheese before I hit the submit button.

[HelenL]

Ah yes, DD = Dunkin Donuts, which promptly segued into bra sizes, and Dana said those are her initials....so of course we tease her about that! :)

Dorothy, wish I could send in the troops and get you all situated properly!!! At least Di sounds likes things are better thank goodness!