indigosd, thank you for your post this morning. You have just made my EL kick in and now my face is all wet but that is ok because so much of what you have said hits home with me. My son is older than yours (now 21) but being a parent doesn't end when your kids reach a certain age, they still need help and guidance even when they are on their own (even if they don't think so).
Sometimes I think that as parents we underestimate our kids because we still can remember them as babies and we forget about all of the things that we have taught them and all of the information that they now have available.
Thanks again
Barry
PS here is a funny my twisted sister (mother of three grown boys) sent me).