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Old 12-05-2004, 01:07 PM #11 (permalink)
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Al...
Sounds like the treatment was/is worse than the disease!

Snowbird...
With regards to your husband.
What is his passion in life? What is his reason for getting outta bed everday?

It is difficult losing the ability to do basic things for oneself...I know that firsthand.
But if he can identify his 'passion' and has a reason to get outta bed, and if he can indulge that passion and find ways to participate. I would imagine his anger/depression would quickly fade away.
Can he contribute to the family business? (Coming up with ways to improve the business...perhaps)
Can he help with the show horses somehow? (Might not be able to shovel manure...but get him in the barn and who knows.)

All of us PALS have lost the ability to do things we once could, but we hafta adapt. For many, it's the mental limitations we place on ourselves (rather than the physical) that cause us to be unable to do...
Dr.Stephen Hawking has few(if any) physical abilities, but has managed to write numerous books, star in an episode of Star Trek TNG, and continues to teach...Why?

If your husband can find (or has ) his passion (and can find a way to indulge), he will have more confidence and rely on you less to do EVERYTHING for him.

Passion is not JUST wanting to 'Live'...but Living with a reason to wake up everday and participate in the world around you.

Everyone has a passion...the key to living, is finding it.
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