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Old 11-16-2004, 09:06 PM #27 (permalink)
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Hi Melissa. I am a bit lost like Tbear, has he been diagnosed with ALS?
Your emotions should be all over the place, the man you love is ill.
I had a nice message to return to you, but I lost it somehow.
I am tell me the truth upfront person, then I will deal with. The unknown drives me crazy, and if I had pushed my friend harder, I would not be wondering at this moment what the hell is going on with him.
Try going to the doctors he has seen on your own, and push them. Ask them what they think, and how best to persuit further tests.
Tell your husband you love him and will support him no matter what, but he has to find out what is wrong. I have a brother in law who ages and ages ago was ill, the doctors couldn't find out what the problem was. My mother had him diagnosed from day one with a brain tumour. Finally after much aggressive interaction, two years later, he had his surgery and is fine now.
You have to be strong, and insistent with him. I made the mistake of soft questions, now I am paying the price.
Carol, you are amazing with all you have on your plate to offer to help her.
WOW!
Now, go do what you have to do, talk to the doctors and don't let up, then kick him in the ass. Ask Carol for some help in that area, she seems to have a stubbourn husband.
Just make sure he knows you love him, make him listen!
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