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Hello,
I would like to get some feedback on an issues that my poor husband has faced with his parents.
In short, his parents took off and moved 4 hours away when my husband was in a bad way from a clinical trial he was on. They didn't tell him they were moving, and after 8 days of them being gone, they finally phoned him and said they were already living in another town.
They did this all behind his back essentially and did it while we were on vacation. I believe that it is his dad driving this, as ever since my husband was diagnosed, his dad throws a fit when the attention is on my husband. His dad has always been sulky, prone to temper tantrums if he does not get his way, and very self centred.
His dad flat out said when my husband was doing quite badly, "since you cannot get out as much now, we may as well move away". They just didn't say when or in what way. We never thought it would be in this way, that's for sure.
Anyway, needless to say, my husband is extremely hurt and very embarrassed that his parents just took off on him and does not know how to broach the subject when friends ask how his parents are. Long story short, I am so mad at what they've done and so disgusted, I never want to see them again. As well, my anger caused me to lash out at my husband for a better part of yesterday. I am so hurt for him that I am not handling myself well at all.
Does anyone have any advice on how to handle the situation? Has anyone encountered this before? Any advice on how to better deal with this would be much appreciated.
Thank you all.
I would like to get some feedback on an issues that my poor husband has faced with his parents.
In short, his parents took off and moved 4 hours away when my husband was in a bad way from a clinical trial he was on. They didn't tell him they were moving, and after 8 days of them being gone, they finally phoned him and said they were already living in another town.
They did this all behind his back essentially and did it while we were on vacation. I believe that it is his dad driving this, as ever since my husband was diagnosed, his dad throws a fit when the attention is on my husband. His dad has always been sulky, prone to temper tantrums if he does not get his way, and very self centred.
His dad flat out said when my husband was doing quite badly, "since you cannot get out as much now, we may as well move away". They just didn't say when or in what way. We never thought it would be in this way, that's for sure.
Anyway, needless to say, my husband is extremely hurt and very embarrassed that his parents just took off on him and does not know how to broach the subject when friends ask how his parents are. Long story short, I am so mad at what they've done and so disgusted, I never want to see them again. As well, my anger caused me to lash out at my husband for a better part of yesterday. I am so hurt for him that I am not handling myself well at all.
Does anyone have any advice on how to handle the situation? Has anyone encountered this before? Any advice on how to better deal with this would be much appreciated.
Thank you all.