So I just started down the road of looking for someone to come in a few hours a day. I was going to do that a month ago but hey even I sometimes get on that river in Egypt...
Since Brian’s diagnosis, his brother died of cancer (Dx’d prior to Brian’s Dx), his sister died from flu just a few weeks ago, our 8 year old Pomeranian Lily died of CHF in July. My mom’s back got much worse. She had a fall and was on the floor 36 hours in August, in a nursing home all of September. Now she is having a lot of trouble again and needs disk surgery.
I work full time. I have help with cleaning and yard work and I get everyone’s groceries delivered pretty much, ours and my moms. I also pay for her housekeeper. I have many animals to care for, don’t mind a bit they are my salvation many days.
My mom does not have money and frankly (and Americans will know what I mean, how our system works) I am about ready for her to take advantage of that fact and enter a Medicare/Medicaid nursing home at least short term while we wait for this disk surgery. I believe her Dr could work up a rehab type order, but she is unwilling. My
Mom is not a nice person (I won’t bore you with that) in general and dealing with her needs too is challenging. We have a bit of cash, but not enough for me to bag my job- it pays well and is the source of the help I can provide. I don’t have enough cash to be paying for more home help for my mom and for ourselves. Well, not do that and lead any kind of life or keep retirement savings in tact. I have limits with her. She is not a nice person. God forgive me.
So that’s my load, and dumping it here because it gets mighty heavy. Thanks everyone.