Narrowminded
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ok, semi-rant coming:
So today I came home to find yet another nurse in tears. This gal is one tough cookie too so I was really surprised. I'm starting to think maybe DH is starting with some FTD. Either that or he's just being pissy to be pissy.
For 6 years we have had one way of communicating how to position him in bed when he feels like he's leaning to the right. It has always been to "roll his hips, then roll his shoulders" Today he decides to change the terminology to turn him to the left. The nurse was trying to clarify exactly what he meant. He got really frustrated and told her to quit asking questions. DD came home, so she asked her if she could figure out what it was he needed.
DD tried to figure it out, even asked him at one point if he wanted his hips rolled and he was like no. So finally she said, well you'll have to wait for mom cause I'm not getting it.
I get home, I could tell the nurse was frustrated. I walked over to him and he still had his message on his computer. I rolled his hips and shoulders and bang he was good.
I asked the nurse to come out to the kitchen, because in the morning she told me he'd been kinda rough the past two Tues (she only works for us on Tues). To let me know if there was anything special she needed to report as to not tip DH off. Well, she walked into the kitchen in tears. And told me the above.
Nothing she did today was right. On top of the fact she has an abcessed tooth and is on antibiotics.
So tonight I asked him if he was feeling ok? He asked why, I said because the nurse said you were kind of cranky and that happens when you get sick. He told me she was nuts. I told him, our DD also said that and he said she was crazy too.
Which led to this conversation that basically had him skirting the issue and making excuses. Finally, after the second time of asking him to please clarify turning to the left he described as above. We have a white board for communication between myself and nurses and I told him I was writing that on his board so we would all have it straight.
Just like the other day, he told me to be aware he's had a lot of goo in his eyes in the morning. I found that strange, as I'm the first one to wipe his face/eyes in the morning and I always check and then ask him if he is good. Like I'm some new person doing this for him.
Just needed to vent to those who would get it. Thanks for listening.
Sue
So today I came home to find yet another nurse in tears. This gal is one tough cookie too so I was really surprised. I'm starting to think maybe DH is starting with some FTD. Either that or he's just being pissy to be pissy.
For 6 years we have had one way of communicating how to position him in bed when he feels like he's leaning to the right. It has always been to "roll his hips, then roll his shoulders" Today he decides to change the terminology to turn him to the left. The nurse was trying to clarify exactly what he meant. He got really frustrated and told her to quit asking questions. DD came home, so she asked her if she could figure out what it was he needed.
DD tried to figure it out, even asked him at one point if he wanted his hips rolled and he was like no. So finally she said, well you'll have to wait for mom cause I'm not getting it.
I get home, I could tell the nurse was frustrated. I walked over to him and he still had his message on his computer. I rolled his hips and shoulders and bang he was good.
I asked the nurse to come out to the kitchen, because in the morning she told me he'd been kinda rough the past two Tues (she only works for us on Tues). To let me know if there was anything special she needed to report as to not tip DH off. Well, she walked into the kitchen in tears. And told me the above.
Nothing she did today was right. On top of the fact she has an abcessed tooth and is on antibiotics.
So tonight I asked him if he was feeling ok? He asked why, I said because the nurse said you were kind of cranky and that happens when you get sick. He told me she was nuts. I told him, our DD also said that and he said she was crazy too.
Which led to this conversation that basically had him skirting the issue and making excuses. Finally, after the second time of asking him to please clarify turning to the left he described as above. We have a white board for communication between myself and nurses and I told him I was writing that on his board so we would all have it straight.
Just like the other day, he told me to be aware he's had a lot of goo in his eyes in the morning. I found that strange, as I'm the first one to wipe his face/eyes in the morning and I always check and then ask him if he is good. Like I'm some new person doing this for him.
Just needed to vent to those who would get it. Thanks for listening.
Sue