Thank you to all....since posting, and reading your responses, i have a renewed sense of strength and the courage to stand up for myself and my sisters..........we will simply do what we can and that's it, and i will not be pushed around by this man or his son...........it is very true that this man is a wimp and is influenced by his kids, then passes those thoughts on to mom....but out of the presence of his kids, he tells my mom he loves her and he is there for her!....the man cannot deal with conflict, discord, etc......he basically turns the other way and let's others figure things out for him.....but yes, will spend any money that his kids want him ot on them and his grandchildren......he'll hand over his credit card to his daughter so they can buy/do whatever is needed for the summer home!.................as far as my family having access to the beautiful summer home? we used to....we were at first welcome there, when mom and the man first got together, for 1 week each summer, but then after a few summers of visiting, we got the icy cold shoulder and our last trip there was in 2004 ..i refused to go after that and told my mom.......it was at that time that mom and the man bought a condo together and that's when the man's kids decided to turn cold........anyway, i have had that moment when a person says 'enough'........and i thank all of you for helping me to get there!..............i have lost a lot of respect for mom's partner and i am angry at her too, for not being stronger with him and asking for what she deserves......if the son decides to call me at any time in the future, i am ready!